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bempowered1
Jan 08, 2022
In Self Help Forum
The holidays are often a whirlwind of activity and emotion involving a busy schedule of shopping, school programs and get-togethers with friends and family. If you experience an emotional disappointment when the holidays pass, there are many things you can do to lift your mood and make it through the emotional let-down after the holidays. These strategies will boost your spirits and get your New Year off to a great start: 1. Take advantage of the extra time you now have for yourself. Since the holiday hullabaloo is over, you have some time to reflect. What do you like about your life? What would you like to change? 2. Think about small goals you’d like to accomplish. Do you want to finally get that hall closet cleaned out? Maybe you can now complete that special project your boss has wanted you to do. · It’s a good time to make a list of all those little tasks you want to get done. Having the list will help you concentrate on your goals. Plus, it’s wonderful to draw a line through an achieved goal. 3. Focus on you for a change. Now is the time to hone in on personal desires and goals. Perhaps you want to exercise more or spend more quality time with your children. Ponder how you might go about making the changes you seek. Think of taking little steps toward your big goals. 4. Pursue an interest. We’ve all got those interests we hope to “get to” someday. Since you’ve got some down time now, why not go for it? Delve in to that subject you’ve been curious about or start the photography class you’ve longed to take. · If you’re not sure what you’re interested in, do some research. Visit your local library, browse some magazines or look in the newspaper. You’ll most likely find a couple of topics or activities you’d like to learn more about. 5. Have a dinner party. You’ll have plenty of time to plan and prepare for this event with people you really care about. You’ll enjoy yourself and your mood will lift. 6. Renew and refresh your surroundings. Do you feel like re-arranging the furniture in a room or two? Maybe you want to paint the walls or hang new curtains. Re-decorating your surroundings is a wonderful way to go in to a new year and banish the holiday blues at the same time. · Re-focusing on your surroundings and thinking about any changes you want to make will help you de-focus from the doldrums. 7. Re-connect with an old friend. There’s something so wonderful about making that call you’ve wanted to make. Hearing your friend’s voice again will bring great joy to your heart. It might be a friend from the old neighborhood, a former college roommate or a past co-worker you were once great friends with. If you’re feeling down now that the holidays are behind you, you’ll be amazed at how quickly you’ll begin to rise above those post-holiday blues when you try some of these strategies. These can seem very small and insignificant depending on the size of the post-holiday blues you're experiencing but try them anyway and you're sure to see the real Big difference they make. Why? Because they're done on your own terms and with you in mind. Taking some quality time for yourself during this period can lighten your mood immensely and ignite your excitement about the year ahead. And it really is an exciting year ahead! Coach L Live Purposely. Passionately. Productively.
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bempowered1
Jan 08, 2022
In Self Help Forum
Isn’t it true that your emotions really take a knock when your heart is aching? Sometimes it feels like the day of healing is a million miles away. The difficult time you encountered in the past can take a while to be purged from your system. It's definitely healthy to experience a range of emotions. However, it's unwise to have the negative ones consume your existence. You're better off working towards healing the hurt. That way, you can start to experience joy and happiness again. Emotional healing is possible if you work at repairing the source of the hurt. As you'll see, that may mean making some tough decisions: 1. Remove negative influences from your life. If you're honest with yourself, you'll realize something important. Some of the negative influences may very well be the people closest to you! It's going to be a challenge separating from them. But your emotional health is more important than maintaining those relationships. · Are any of your friends guilty of adding fuel to the fire? Can you identify times when they've encouraged you to avoid forgiving someone who offended you? · You can very quickly identify people whose advice is riddled with negativity. Avoid allowing the years of friendship to cloud your judgment. You can almost guarantee continued misery if you keep them in your life. 2. Accept responsibility for your actions. It's pretty hard to look in the mirror, right? Deep down, you know your actions resulted in the hurt you feel. But it's difficult to accept the part you played. · Confront your wrongdoings. Be courageous enough to accept responsibility for your actions. · Inner peace can elude you if you try to cover up the role you played. Inner turmoil can feel just as unbearable as physical discomfort. · In the same breath, be willing to forgive yourself so you can move on to better days ahead. 3. Live according to your moral compass. You likely have a set of morals to live by. And while you know they exist, you may sometimes avoid them when making decisions. Abandoning morals is the easiest way to make missteps in life. · Go back to your roots. Take a hard look at what really matters to you. Start to embrace those morals one by one. · Start to repair how you approach situations. If making a decision means abandoning your moral compass, take another route. Just like any other compass, your moral compass keeps you on track. It's the best way to avoid getting lost in the sea of emotional decision-making. 4. Commit to daily renewal. The road to emotional healing is long and winding. It's something that usually takes quite a bit of time to achieve. But it can be done! All you need to do is re-commit to the cause every morning when you wake up. · Daily renewal is the best way to turn your healing into habit. When you go for days without that renewal, it's easy to slip back into the heartache. Be fair to yourself. Remember you deserve the healing. · At the end of each positive day, celebrate your progress. Congratulate yourself for completing one more day of healing and positive living. You'll find you rest more soundly at night. Achieving emotional healing isn't an automatic process. It takes time and a lot of attention. Now is the time to really take care of yourself. Focus on what you need and block out the noise around you. Use these tips to help you on your healing journey. You deserve to heal and it's time to stop the hurting. Coach L Live Purposely. Passionately. Productively.
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bempowered1
Jan 08, 2022
In Self Help Forum
Great leaders know how to motivate others. Since the amount you can accomplish on your own is limited, it’s necessary to have the assistance of others. Someone that can motivate others to do their best has an incredibly valuable talent. When you can inspire others, you can accomplish much more. Motivate others to do their best: 1. Be emotionally supportive. To help others shine, removing the fear of failing or looking foolish is critical. Most people are frozen by fear and prefer to remain comfortable. When fear is greater than motivation, nothing happens. Removing fear can be just as effective as instilling additional motivation. 2. Provide additional support. Ask what resources are required. Does your employee require additional help or funds to get a project off the ground? Perhaps your child needs a tutor or assistance with creating a resume. Determine what resources are required for success and provide them. 3. Follow up regularly. Show that you care by monitoring their progress. It’s enough to ask and then listen. Asking questions will also help to keep them on track. 4. Be publicly supportive. It’s one thing to support an employee in the privacy of your office. It’s quite another to be supportive in front of her co-workers. Parents are guilty of this, too. Avoid only supporting your children around the dinner table. Support them in public also. 5. Acknowledge and reward. Acknowledge progress and effort regularly. Everyone needs a little boost now and then. Ideally, give acknowledgement publically. Conversely, your disgruntlement and any discipline should be handled privately. It’s as simple as handling praise and reprimands most effectively. 6. Ask for ideas. You might hear a few ideas that are better than your own. It’s easier for others to get excited about their own ideas than to get excited about yours. Using ideas from your team will create a sense of purpose and involvement. These are 6 secrets great leaders utilize to help inspire and motivate others around them to new levels of greatness! One can have skill, know how and a mind to be the best them they can and still not get there, Why? Most human beings require the visual and verbal encouragement of others to move beyond the levels of safety that although somewhat comfortable, is in essence a major life limitation full of inner as well as outer personal experiences that are often seemingly filled with failure and disappointments. On your own it can be very challenging if not difficult to disassociate from those past memories and the feelings that accompany them. This is where the examples of those that have pressed past their past, crushed previous limitations and no longer associate failure and disappointment as a metric for present day or future success supply the motivation needed by others to prefer to try and fail verses fail to try! This is the first place on the road to greatness. Empower Coaching has been designed to help empower both One on One clients and Group clients to break-free from limitations and discovery simple, clear and practical methods to experience lasting greater personal grow and develop that leads to living the life you've always wanted. You're our "why" we are and do what we've done for thousands of others. Coach L Live Purposely. Passionately. Productively.
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bempowered1
Jan 07, 2022
In Self Help Forum
My plans succeed because I take action. I am determined to see my dreams become reality. I am prosperous in every area of my life because of my unstoppable attitude. I attract triumph with my work ethic. My dreams are big and ambitious because I allow myself to dream without limitations. I give myself time to develop thoughts into ideas and ideas into plans. My vision for my future fills my heart with excitement. My ability to achieve rests solely on my honest desire to see my dreams realized. Dreams are more than fairy tales I imagine for myself; dreams are revelations of destiny. When I have a dream, it is because my soul has received a calling to fulfill a purpose. The excitement I feel when I envision myself achieving great things stays with me as I figure out what steps I need to take to make my dream a reality. I spring into action because action is what drives success. As I work hard, I see small glimpses of success, which energizes me to work even harder and achieve even more. When I match the energy of my actions with the passion of my dreams, I am successful. I am enthusiastic every step of the way because I keep the image of my desire in the forefront of my thoughts. Today, I choose to move beyond the process of dreaming by formulating a plan and implementing strategies for action. My dreams are important, but action is what can deliver those dreams to me. You are and can do what you think and say! Say what you want not what you have! Coach L Live Purposely. Passionately. Productively.
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bempowered1
Jan 07, 2022
In Self Help Forum
If you're like most of us, you rarely keep your New Year's resolutions. Perhaps you have trouble with them because you make resolutions that are too ambitious. Or maybe you give up because immediate progress is hard to see. Whatever your reason, it's possible to make adjustments in your approach until you get what you want. If you want to keep your New Year's resolutions, you first have to learn to make the kind you can actually follow through on. Make effective resolutions that support you and lead you toward the destiny you desire. Create unstoppable momentum by creating resolutions that lead to small, continuous victories. Focus on what kinds of changes you really want to make in your life. Do you want to lose weight? Quit smoking? Go back to school? Write a novel? There are all kinds of things you may want to do, both big and small. In order to get them done, you have to first get started. Making Realistic Resolutions If you have a big goal, break it down into smaller, bite-sized chunks. Saying you want to write five books next year, lose 100 pounds, or get your 4-year degree are goals that are very worthwhile goals. But they're only attainable if you break them down into smaller actions you can accomplish in real life. Write down the actions you must take to write those books, lose those pounds, or get that degree. What one small action can you take today to move yourself closer to your goal? Take that action, and write down actions you can take each day for the next ten days. When you do, you'll create unstoppable momentum toward the success you deserve. When you decide what really matters to you and break it down into small chunks that are easy to handle, you keep yourself from becoming overwhelmed. If you still feel overwhelmed, break your resolution down further. The big dream at the finish line will motivate you and the small steps to get there will keep you from getting overwhelmed. Remember to reward yourself at each small victory. Keep reminding yourself about why you're doing the things you're doing. That way, you'll stay motivated and excited throughout the rest of this year. Keep Your Resolutions Alive Tracking your progress is vital to successfully keeping your New Year's resolutions. Pay close attention to your progress. Make an effort even when you want to throw in the towel. The only way to fail at New Year's resolutions is to give up. Notice what's working and what needs to change in your approach, and then adapt your tactics until you get what you want. Setbacks provide great feedback that helps you to get on track. Use your setbacks to set yourself up for an even bigger comeback. When you do that, you'll get more accomplished than you expected to, even if you fall short of your goal. Above all, decide what's important to you and go after it with all your might. When you do, you'll begin to experience the fulfilling life you deserve. You can do it! We're here to help! Coach L Live Purposely. Passionately. Productively.
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bempowered1
Dec 23, 2020
In Self Help Forum
Being a skilled leader doesn’t just benefit you and your employer. Leaders provide many benefits to their team members. Leadership can be a burden, but when you realize how much it contributes to others, you’ll be even more motivated to lead. You’ll also be even more aware of how valuable you are to your company. Leaders benefit their teams in a variety of ways: 1. Leaders take the blame. When things go wrong, leaders take the blame for the team. Leaders might get most of the credit when things go well, but they also receive the brunt of the blame the rest of the time. 2. Leaders inspire. An effective leader can inspire others to believe they’re capable of great things. Leaders also inspire others to believe in the project and to expect a positive outcome. Inspired employees are happier and more productive. 3. Leaders create a vision and clarity. When we don’t know what is going on, a leader can create a vision and provide direction. A team is lost without a leader. 4. Leaders are supportive. A good leader provides the support, encouragement, and resources needed to be at our best. 5. Leaders instill confidence. Leaders are good at stretching team members to be bigger and better than they’ve demonstrated in the past. Making someone feel confident in their abilities is a gift that an effective leader provides. 6. Leaders make the big decisions. Not everyone on a team is capable of making big decisions. Leaders remove the burden of making the hard choices. Understand how much your leadership skills provide to your employer and your team. Effective leaders are highly prized within any organization. When your leadership responsibilities feel burdensome, remember just how important you are. You have great value on the inside of you although it can be challenging to see at times because its not for you. You're entrusted with it so you can share and add it to the lives of others in a way no one else could..that makes you unique and valuable. The gifts in you will make room for you and your voice will be heard. Be prepared for the opportunity! Coach L Live Purposely. Passionately. Productively.
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bempowered1
Dec 23, 2020
In Self Help Forum
Develop, build & maintain working relationships – no goal is achieved alone, it will always require the cooperation of others. One of the biggest mistakes made is realizing this at the point of needing to get things done & discovering your inability to attain the goal without help. Solution: develop working relationships and build on them which will take valuable time, yet these are valuable relationships. Trust people around you – the more you designate task or sub-task to others the more you learn to trust as well the more is able to get accomplished Identify the people whose assistance & cooperation you require to achieve your goal *Success is never done alone it requires a team of people for true success to be achieved & maintained Construct a list of every person in your life that you will need to work with or work around to achieve your goals. The metric for qualification is centered on their importance, ability, influence. Begin with family – spouse, children, friends, co-workers and church members you’ll need that will work in cooperation with you as you work with them. *Identify everyone who achievement of this goal will impact. Answer the question: what’s in helping them for me? in helping me for them? *Those that build & maintain the largest network of other people they can help & who can in return help them are the most successful. *Studies prove the more people that know you in a positive manner the more rounded success you have in every arena of life. Be a Giver - not a Getter! Coach L Live Purposely. Passionately. Productively.
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